Silencing Our Inner Critics

Today’s post is for getting rid of that inner critic of ours (aka negative self-talk)! So, what is negative self-talk exactly?

Negative self-talk is any type of inner dialogue we have with ourselves that hinders our ability to believe in ourselves and reach our full potential.

Negative self-talk creates an altered reality.

The more we repeat things to ourselves, the more likely we are to believe them. For example, if our inner dialogue constantly includes statements such as “I’m terrible at this”, “I don’t deserve this”, or “I have to be perfect” – we actually start to believe these things about ourselves as if they are the truth.

Sometimes, negative self-talk isn’t as obvious though! It can also include:

1. “Always or never” thinking

2. Focusing on the negative aspects of ourselves/behaviors

3. Mind-reading - or convincing yourself that you know what someone is thinking or how they feel about you

4. Guilt tripping – or focusing on everything bad you have ever done and convincing yourself that these events define who you are as a person

Negative self-talk has many detrimental consequences. It can lead to: higher levels of stress, lowered self-esteem, decreased motivation, and feelings of helplessness.

The good news is that this inner critic can be silenced! A few ways to minimize negative self-talk include:

1. Start to pay attention to when you are critical of yourself - and stop yourself mid-thought!

2. Remember that your {negative} thoughts, feelings, and evaluations of a situation are not always the reality of that situation - instead, remind yourself of the facts that you know to be true.

3. Ask yourself “would I say this to a loved one?” if the answer is “No” – don’t say it to yourself!



Canfield, J. (n.d.). 5 tips to stop negative self-talk once & for all. Retrieved from

Scott, E. (2018). The toxic effects of negative self-talk. Retrieved from


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